We are not responsible for how people treat us. We cannot control that. However, we are accountable to God for the way that we treat others. In Matthew 7, we learn about the Golden Rule. “So, whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets” (Matt. 7:12). If we are going to learn to love the way that Christ loves His church, we must treat people the way that we want to be treated and love, unconditionally.
I’m a flawed person, extremely flawed. When I think about God’s grace and mercy towards me, I think to myself, “How can I mistreat others because they have mistreated me? After all the wrong that I’ve done, God forgives me continually.” Loving others means: not holding a grudge, not hanging their flaws over their heads, accepting people for who they are, and praying God’s best for them – even when they mistreat you. It’s easier said than done when the mistreatment causes you hurt or pain of any kind. However, we must look to the Lord for our strength to do this thing. It’s in our weakness that His strength is made perfect (2 Corinth. 12:9).
God is love. He loves everyone. He is not partial. Matthew 5:45 says, “He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.” Honestly, this truth doesn’t always sit right with me. I always want God to vindicate me and do my wrongdoers wrong. But the reality is, He is merciful and kind. He doesn’t always repay evil with evil, and neither should we.
As I questioned God about loving and honoring others – He showed me Genesis 9 – Noah & his sons. In verse 20 we see Noah drunk, uncovered, and naked. He was a flawed man. His son Canaan saw his father’s nakedness in his drunken state. Instead of covering his father, he exposed him by telling his two other brothers. On the other hand, verse 23 says, “Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it on both their shoulders, and went backward and covered the nakedness of their father. Their faces were turned away, and they did not see their father’s nakedness.” We see a clear depiction of how we ought to cover others even in their flaws.
1 Peter 4:8 commands, "Above all, have fervent and unfailing love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins [it overlooks unkindness and unselfishly seeks the best for others]." God is calling us to love. If there ever was a time that we needed more love, it’s now. Make a choice to love.